It is a weekend designed for couples who are preparing for marriage. The weekend provides an opportunity for each couple to talk privately and honestly about their future lives together - their strengths and weaknesses; desires; ambitions; goals; their attitudes about money, sex, values, lifestyles, family, and their role in the church and society. Research indicates that lasting marriages are a result of good communication, problem-solving and decision-making. These are skills which are reinforced in this course. The weekend is presented with the approval of the Cardinal John Dew, and the Archdiocesan Family Life Office.
When is the weekend held?
Engaged Encounter weekends are held in March/July/November. It begins on Saturday morning at 8am and concludes around 4.00pm on Sunday afternoon after Mass. To get the most benefit out of the weekend, couples need to attend the entire weekend. Please see the homepage for the specific dates
Where is the weekend held?
The location of the weekend will be at St Teresa's Parish, 301 Karori Road, Karori, Wellington
What is the cost of the weekend?
The cost is $180 per couple, however no couple is denied the opportunity of attending a weekend, as funds may be available for such purposes if necessary. The weekend is fully catered for with snacks, lunches and dinner provided. You will also receive course materials to take home. Please pay using Internet Banking on the Register page.
Why should we attend?
Our motto is: 'A wedding is a day, a marriage is a lifetime'. Attending a marriage preparation course is a requirement for getting married in a Catholic Church. But think of all the preparation you have done for your career or job. Most of us spend years studying or learning. Think of the preparation taken for your wedding day. Most people spend months planning and many dollars preparing for their wedding. But how much time and effort do we spend preparing for what we hope will last 50 or 60 years – our marriage?. Ask yourself this question, 'Am I willing to spend 20 hours devoted to hearing ideas and learning skills that will help to make my marriage the best it can be?.
When should a couple attend?
A couple should attend the course as early as possible in their engagement. The weekend is not directly a preparation for the wedding day, so it shouldn't be left to the busy period before the wedding.
What happens during the weekend?
Married couples present examples from their own relationships for engaged couples to privately discuss in relation to their own forthcoming marriage.The engaged couples discussion is always from the viewpoint of their own relationship.Personal reflection and discussion between the couple is the main focus of the weekend. Coffee breaks and meal times provide an opportunity for couples to socialise.
Is it still relevant to trends or lifestyles these days?
Weekends are presented using the latest outlines gained from extensive research here and internationally.
Do we have to share personally?
No you don't. The team couples share with you some of their experiences of married life which you can reflect on as a couple.
Is it based on group discussion?
There are no group dynamics. The weekend is specifically designed for private discussion between the couple. However there is an opportunity for a question and answer session.
Is it just for Catholics?
No. Although the weekend is designed for couples who are being married in the Catholic Church, the emphasis is on relationship education and is relevant to those of another religion or those who have no religion. It is common for couples to come where one person is Catholic and the other person has no religion. We would recommend getting your fiance to read the Feedback page to read about past attendees experiences during the weekend.
Is Catholicism pushed?
No. The focus of the weekend is your relationship. As most of the team are Catholics, some of their sharings will reflect their own religious faith. The weekend is about Christian values common to all Christian faiths. However you can make your own interpretation of the talks based on your own relationship.
Do we need to bring a bible for the weekend?
No this is not necessary as the weekend is not a bible study course.